Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted.
But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. -- Isaiah 53:4-5 (NIV)
When grief strikes, many people wonder what God is like and whether he cares about their pain. The Bible answers this by showing that God is not distant from suffering but comes close to it in the person of Jesus.
The Bible teaches that there is one true God—holy, just, and overflowing with love—who made us for a relationship with himself. Yet from the Garden of Eden onward, humanity has turned away from God, choosing separtion over trust, and that rebellion has opened the door to brokenness, suffering, and death.
God did not leave us in that separation. Because we would not and could not find our way back to him, he came to us in Jesus—God the Son taking on real human flesh, entering a world of grief, loss, and death.
Jesus lived a humble, obedient life, experiencing hunger, fatigue, rejection, and sorrow; at the cross, he carried the full weight of our sin and suffering so that we could be forgiven and made new. He died the death we deserved, then rose again so that death would not have the last word over those who trust in him.
The concept of “falling short” is not popular in our culture. Modern society urges people to celebrate themselves exactly as they are and to push away any sense of guilt or shame as unhealthy or judgmental.
This mindset often shows up inside the Church as well, where messages can drift toward constant affirmation: you are loved, you are enough, you should never feel bad about yourself. While God’s love is real and unshakeable, the Bible says our deepest problem is not low self-esteem, poor socialization, or what others have done to us; it is our ongoing choice to live for ourselves instead of for God.
Sin means continually prioritizing our own desires over God’s will, ignoring his ways, and breaking the moral law he has written on our hearts. When we go against that God-given sense of right and wrong, it is natural to feel guilt, unease, and even shame—these are signals that something in us needs to be brought into the light and made new.
Jesus did not come simply to affirm us as we are; he came to transform us. His call is not, “I want you to like being who you are,” but, “I want you to be like me”—to be remade into his character, his humility, his love, and his obedience to the Father.
To be transformed, two things must happen:
We must first acknowledge that, on our own, we are spiritually broken and that our core problem is our own sin, not just a bad experience that has happened to us.
We must then bring our sin to Jesus, trusting that his death and resurrection are enough to forgive us, cleanse us, and begin reshaping us from the inside out.
As we confess, God not only removes the eternal penalty of sin but also begins to free us from the crushing weight of our own hurt and suffering. See the page Confess Sins for more on this.
Timothy Keller (Christian pastor and published theologian)
Source: Walking with God through Pain and Suffering. 2013. New York City: Viking. page 58.
Jesus is the suffering Savior who stepped into our broken world to reconcile hurting people to God, carry our sins, and defeat death so that grief and loss are never the end of the story. God is in the middle of our pain. He is a Holy Spirit, a loving Father, and a crucified-and-risen Mediator who invites all to come to him. And this God Knows your suffering.
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